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 Anonymous Asked: There's this guy at my school that I've known for about five years, and I very recently started thinking about him like a lot and I think he might feel that way about me too, but I want to know if him and I should go out- I get really shy around him now, but I feel like I shouldn't since we're really good friends, but I don't know what to do :/ My answer: Just talk to him the way you did when you were just friends. It’s hard, but try not to think of him as the guy you like, but instead think of him as the best friend you’ve had for five years. Remember, if he likes you, it’s because of who you were around him when you two were just friends. So really, you can’t say anything wrong, and you don’t have to be anyone but yourself to impress him. Anonymous Asked: ok, so i like this guy, and we have hung out a few times, and i think he likes me, but im not sure, he calls me cute, and always jokes around with me, but he always talks to my friends instead of me when we are in a group.... and when we talk in person hes a lot more talkative and nice and flirty, but when we text, its like talking to a wall. and i dont know if i should tell him if i like him.... HELP! My answer: Don’t be worried if he’s bad at texting. Some people just aren’t good texters. What’s important is that he’s interesting in person. That’s where the relationship matters. If he’s flirty one on one, it sounds like he likes you. In a group, it’s easier to talk to someone you don’t like than the person you do, because people are around to scrutinize your every move. If you aren’t sure what to do, just ask him who he likes. It implies you are interested, it gives him an opportunity to tell you, and it saves the situation from becoming awkward if he likes someone else. Anonymous Asked: So I've been kind of feeling upset because i feel like all my boyfriend has been asking for was sex. So i told him and he said sorry and that he didn't mean that,i know he cares about me we've been together for 14 months. This was last week So yesterday he came over and then we went to and ice cream shop so he gave me his wallet to pay and his phone and said he needed to use the bathroom. His friend texted him saying "Ay, man! Yeah get some." and before that he had said "We're fucking." My answer: Well it sort of sounds like he’s getting pressure from his friends. If he didn’t bring up the topic the day you went to get ice cream, then chances are he’s bluffing, so his friends don’t think he’s a wimp. If he continues to pressure you, then you might want to rethink your relationship with him. Because your boyfriend should always respect your boundaries, regardless of how long you’ve been dating. But unless he really brings it up in a serious conversation, just forget about the text. It probably didn’t mean much, just a way to get his friends off his back. Anonymous Asked: I really need some help, my best friend has liked me for the longest time- he even wrote a love letter to me. But i dont like him that way, i love him like a brother. His best friend and i started dating and now my best friend cant stand to see us together. hes heartbroken and i feel horrible. My best friend doesnt realize that i love him more than anyone else in the world and thats why i cant date him- i cant lose the great relationship we have now, its absolutely perfect. How can i fix this... My answer: Talk to him. Tell him what you told me; how much you love and care about him. It’s hard to move on with your friendship in this kind of situation, but being completely honest with each other is the best option. Also try to keep the PDA with your boyfriend to a minimum while you are around your best friend. It’s probably pretty hard for him to move on when he sees you two together everyday. Anonymous Asked: hey. i really like this guy&i think he likes me aswell but the problem is the lack of communication. we're both shy to go up&talk to each other...he stares at me a lot but i want him to come up to me&just start a conversation with me. personally, i dont think im making enough effort but its because for me it should be the boy who does all the effort but i dont want him to think that im not interested but i really dont know how to talk to him or even flirt with him, i dont know what to say to him My answer: A relationship doesn’t just suddenly appear. It takes a lot of work, and despite what most girls think, it’s not just the guy’s job to talk first. When you date someone, you want an equal relationship, and that doesn’t happen when it’s only the guy making an effort. In reality, you both need to make an effort, or your relationship doesn’t stand a chance. Don’t be afraid to talk to him yourself. Just start up a conversation about anything, and keep it going from there. Usually a neutral subject is best to start with, like a certain class you share, homework you had last night, or a movie you recently saw. Anything that you know enough about to keep the conversation interesting. Don’t try to flirt with him until you’re actually talking daily. It’s best to let him get to know you first, and then let a relationship spring from there. Anonymous Asked: I'm not sure I'm capable of loving anyone in a romantic way. Any time I get in a relationship I end up just getting annoyed of the person not long after....I'm afraid that I'll never actually be able to have real, romantic feelings for anyone. My answer: Just because you haven’t found someone you really love yet, doesn’t mean you won’t. Some people fall fast, and others fall slowly. I would make sure you’re not getting into a relationship just to see how you feel about them. If you have doubts, then don’t date them. Don’t give up on love just yet, and don’t label yourself as unloving. Not everyone’s going to find love right away, and it’s completely okay that you haven’t yet. I’m opening up anonymous again on my messages. I don’t want to annoy or spam up anyone’s dashboards, so I’ll only answer questions that I haven’t been asked before. There is a link to my past anonymous advice on the side of my blog. I will still answer ALL non-anonymous messages privately. Anonymous Asked: Heads up your blog is awesome!!! My answer: Thank you, awesome anon!! :) I’m turning off my anon messages for now. I have about 25 anonymous advice messages to answer, and I don’t want to make anyone wait any longer. Regular messages are still welcome, but they will be private. Sorry guys! |
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